Friday, December 23, 2016

10 Common Mistakes to Avoid When Setting & Achieving Your Goals!!

I can only imagine what you are probably facing as we are just two weeks away from the New Year.  You sat down at the beginning of 2016 and decided to write out your game plan of everything you wanted to manifest this year. January 1st, you were ready, exploding with energy and excitement to become the best version of yourself this year.

You made an outward declaration and spoke repeated affirmations of how this year was going to be your year. You shouted to the rooftops on  social media, you got your family and friends involved and all excited along with you and you were pumped.  You felt like the Queen of the world and nothing or no one could dethrone you. 

This would be the year that you got out of debt, finish your degree, write that book, start that business or finish that project you started years ago. This was your year of intentions, the year you would work on building reputable relationships, work on your marriage, loose that 10 extra pounds, reconcile relationships with lost loved ones etc.  But unfortunately somewhere down the line, you noticed that some of the goals  you set were not working out as you had hoped. 

As the months went by and now here in December, the last month of the year, it's hitting you like a ton of bricks that some of the goals you wanted to accomplish are a total bombshell. 

There is no way, no how at this point you are going to fully achieve some of the goals you set in January of this year.  I know how discouraging that is in itself can be and how the feelings of hopelessness can overcome you like a rushing wind.  How does that even happen? 

How can one have so many big goals in mind and all legitimate by the way, but yet experience little accomplishment of those big goals being achieved?
Trust me, I know what you're going through and at this very moment, you are saying why even bother. I have news for you; there is still hope! Now don't get me wrong, I know that some of the goals you wanted to achieve are absolutely impossible to achieve at this point, but you still have time to begin again. 

For me, my issue was when I would set big goals and not achieve many of them, it wasn't that I wasn't excited or lacked  good intentions. I simply did not have a specific plan in place in order to meet the goals I set.   I would write them down on a piece of paper or somewhere, other goals I just kept at the forefront of my mind, but I did not take a strategic approach as to how I would achieve those goals. I would then become distracted, discouraged, frustrated and ready to throw in my towel and give up. Because I know that I am not the only one that experienced this, I'm committed to helping you to begin achieving some of those goals you set as early as the first quarter of 2017.  

So I am going to share with you Jill's 10 Common Mistakes to Avoid When Working to Set & Achieve Your Goals!

1.) Not having a written plan. Habakkuk 2:2 Then the Lord answered me and said: "Write the vision and make it plain on tablets, that he may run who reads it.  Having a vision or a goal without a plan, is simply having a good idea.  If you want to move from dreaming and hoping to achieving and accomplishing your goals, you must have a vision and a written plan!
2.) Not taking the time or not giving it enough time. In order to accomplish anything in life, you have to put time and effort towards achieving that goal.  Even something as simple as changing eating habits, requires you to set aside time to do meal preparation.
3.) Lack commitment to see it through.  Habakkuk 2:3 For the vision is yet for an appointed time; but at the end it will speak, and it will not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; Because it will surely come, It will not tarry.   I want to tell you, you have to decide to refuse to quit until you see what God says come to pass! Did you know Abraham Lincoln ran for public office 16 times before he was elected president, the writer of the movie "The Help", stop counting the rejection notices received after receiving her 45th letter telling her that no one wanted to hear her story.  What would have happened if they had gave up?  You have to be willing to persist in the face of adversity and disappointment.
4.) Setting too many goals. This is just as bad as not setting goals at all, as you have so many moving parts you can't focus.  Focusing on one thing single-handedly until done yields more success than trying to juggle eight things in the air at one time.  Commit to being FOCUSED.  Follow. One. Course. Until. Success.  Now that is KING!

5.) Don't track progress.  Here is where you get all your feedback as to whether or not, you are getting the results you desire. If you don't have a way to track your progress, it is difficult to see what needs to be changed or adjusted to get you closer to your goal.  So you must have a tracking system.

6.) Don't have S.M.A.R.T. goals.  S.M.A.R.T. goals are Specific. Measurable. Attainable. Relevant. Time-Bounded.  This helps you get to laser focus on what you are trying to achieve.

7.) Break stride and lose momentum.  This is where a strong community of like-minded kingdom women comes in.  If you give everything you got to achieving your goals and you still come up short, some times, it can be hard not to give up.  Having a community can give you that second wind to get back out there and begin again. 

8.) Distracted by other competing priorities or goals.  This goes back to having too many goals.  Stick with one goal for at least 30 to 90 days depending on what it is and it will be easier not to get distracted by competing priorities.

9.) No centralized place to document and keep track of everything.   Disorganization can kill any plan.  You thought you wrote it there or you had it here, part of the plan is in one notepad and the other part of your plan is still yet to be found.  Having a workbook to put everything in one place, clear up this issue really quick.  This is the very reason, we created a workbook as a companion guide to our upcoming webinar

10.) No Accountability.  Having someone watching you or checking in with you on a routine basis more than double your chances of success.  An African Proverbs says, if you want to go quickly, go alone; if you want to go far, go together.

Our upcoming LIVE Goal Achievement virtual workshop scheduled for Thursday, January 5, 2017 @ 8PM EST is designed to help you avoid these common mistakes.  It is valued over $397 but you can get full access for pennies on the dollar.

This virtual workshop is designed to help you:
  • Write a clear and concise goal achievement plan for your life and relationships.
  • Implement a system of accountability to keep you on track until you reach your goals.
  • Show you how to eliminate distractions and busy work so you can start producing.
  • Help you get to a size healthy you have been desiring and out of the financial rut.
Here is something you probably did not realize, over 92% of the people that set New Years goals never achieve them!  We want don't want you to be apart of that number in 2017! Join Us Today

Here is what you get! 
  • Vision Casting Exercise
  • 90 Minute Live Video Training (Max 50 Attendees)
  • 7 Step Process Jill and I Uses to Set and Achieve Life & Relationship Goals Each Year
  • 90 Plus Page (Electronic Version) Workbook to Follow Along
  • 30 Minute Question & Answer Segment
Can't wait to see you....let's Goal It!
By Treal Ravenel with Co-author Jill Bulluck

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Sunday, December 4, 2016

How to Be Successful? Start with Being Healther | 7 Tips to Creating Healthy Habits



How many times have you heard someone say that they want to be successful?  I know I have heard it more times than many but what I don’t see behind the words more so is the action that will guarantee that place of success.  There are no overnight successes despite what you may have believed. 

To reach any level of success, it takes lots of work, discipline, consistency and organization on your end.  Sometimes we get so caught up in believing that God is going to do all the work and all we have to do is prayer. I hate to break it to you but Faith without Works is null in void.   If you have your Faith on Fleek, congratulations because you are one step closer to experiencing success and now all you need to do is implement the work part. 

A major part of doing the work in becoming success is Creating Healthy Habits in your life.  I had to learn along my journey that success starts in your personal life before it’s possible in any other area.  The way you do anything is the way you do everything.  What that means is if your personal life is all over the place and inconsistent than your professional life will look the same. 
 
The first step in Creating Healthy Habits is taking an inventory of your personal life.  

Is your life overwhelming?  

Is your daily schedule chaotic?  

Is your home full of clutter denying you of any personal space? 

Is your car a junk fest?  

Do you balance your checkbook and control your spending? 

Do you take time out for self-care? 

Do you take time out for others? 

You get the drift!  All of these things are things that you and me need to work on if we desire to be successful in any other area, that includes our relationship with God, our husbands (future husbands), businesses etc
The less clutter you have, the more clarity you gain.

I want to leave with you 7 Tips to help you over the next few days and weeks in Creating Healthy Habits for your life. I have implemented these tools and they have made a tremendous difference in my life and I want to spread the love.

1.      Create daily routines - daily task is inevitable, stick to the script - the most successful people have morning rituals and routines. What are you wasting time on?  If you want your life to change, start with changing one day at a time.
2.      Be intentional about your time with God before you do anything else - start with 20 min per day.  Don’t overkill here.  If this is new for you, start small and work your way up to lengthier time frames.
3.      Create consistency- do things the same time every day or same days per week - read, pray, meditate, give thanks, exercise etc.  For instance, you may pray/read starting at 6AM.  You may workout Monday, Wednesdays and Fridays at noon. 
4.      Discipline - do it no matter what - don't think about the hour you don't have, focus on the 10-15 min you do have.
5.      Eat healthy- start with breakfast replacements – replace the unhealthy breakfast for a yogurt or oatmeal and fruits. Be creative and start small.
6.      Clean your car every week and pick a certain day of the week to do laundry.
7.      Self-Development - replace forms of entertainment with things that will help you reach your level of success.  Listen and entertain things that speak to your purpose rather than your pain.
These are just a few tips I wanted to share with you because they have been transformational for me.  For more information on Creating Healthy Habits in your life, email us at jillandtreal@detourmovement.com.

Treal
Life & Marriage Transformational Strategist

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Sunday, November 27, 2016

The Truth About a Proverbs 31 Woman!

“Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life” (Proverbs 31:10-12) 

Many of you like me have been told or someone eluded to the fact that you need to be a Proverbs 31 woman at some point in your life; be it your parents, preacher, saved family member etc. I don’t know about you but I had no idea that #1 that existed, #2 how to become or act like such a woman and #3 why it was necessary. So if that is you, no need to be ashamed or feel intimidated sista girl. 

As time went on and my relationship with God grew stronger and deeper; he revealed to me the attributes of a Proverbs 31 woman and why it was necessary for every woman to stand in this space rather you are single, married, divorced, widowed etc. I did say every woman right!  I felt it was so important until I wrote a book about it to share with other women. Women who like me once had no idea or those that now do have some understanding but desire to grow even the more. Let me tell you, you will never stop becoming so even if you classify yourself as a Proverbs 31 woman, growth and character building opportunities are always available.

So here is what I want to do, I want to take a few moments to share some characteristics of a Proverbs 31 Women. As you read these, pinpoint where you are so you can take advantage of those growth and character building opportunities:

· She is a women of Faith 

· She Respects and loves her husband 

· She is Honest 

· She is a Good Steward over her Finances 

· She is Nurturing/Motherly 

· She believes in Health and Fitness 

· She is Industrious 

· She is Hospitable 

· She is cognizant in using her Time wisely 

· She displays Beauty 

· She is a woman of Service 

It is my ongoing desire to grow more and more as a Proverbs woman every single day and guess what; I desire the same for you to and for any woman who is ready to say yes.

Each year, a few times a year, we complete the Proverbs 31 Day Challenge corporately. We invite a few thousand women to join us on a 31 Day Challenge that will take them through the book of Proverbs along with my Proverbs Day Devotion that I alluded to earlier. I want so badly for you to join us on this journey and here is why; as a result of you doing this Proverbs 31 Day Challenge, you will gain more Understanding of what a Proverbs 31 Woman looks like; you will become more Wise in your day to day decision making from mate selection, money management, marriage sustainability to your mission and ministry; and you will be more Disciplined in every area of your life. I don’t know about you but I need a little dose of all three.

The Challenge is absolutely FREE to join but in order for you to get the most value and the results you desire from this challenge, you will need to make a small investment of $7.99 to get a copy of the electronic version of the devotional book. If you want to uplevel your experience and am really serious about this journey, we also have an option that includes a start-up tool kit which is a journal so you can reflect on the lesson and write your take-a-ways of what you got from the scripture and lesson each day.  Click HERE to check out  both options and to see which one is best for you.You will only get out what you put in!

Next, I am invite you to join our Proverbs 31 Day Challenge group via Facebook along with 500+ women. You being apart of this group will allow you to walk alongside other woman who desire to become or desire more growth as a Proverbs 31 Woman. This group will provide you support along with regular inspiration and motivation while on your journey. Click HERE to join the group.

I look forward to not only Going with you but Growing with you over the next 31 Days!



Treal Ravenel

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Saturday, November 19, 2016

The 10 Commandments to having Great Relationships!!

Many of us have or have had relationship goals at some point of our life. We think of the day when we're going to be able to spend the rest of our life with that special someone and live happily ever after. I know I did and for a long time that was my focus. I would only hope and dream and wonder what the rest of my life would be like with me sharing it with someone I loved so deeply. 

What I fell to realize for a long time is that having a special someone in your life forever, takes a lot of work. And the work does not start when you get into a relationship with the other person. In fact, the work starts with your relationship with God.

I want to take just a few moments of your time to share some tools with you on how you can put in the work so you can have great relationships.

From a small child as long as I can remember, I've always had a relationship or had an understanding of who God was, but I did not always have a close relationship with him to the point of allowing him to lead my life. So in desiring to have a relationship with another person, I had to come to grips that developing a strong and committed relationship with God was first priority. It would set the stage for every other relationship that would come after that.

I had to allow God to be in total control of my life and my daily decisions and I had to also learn how to submit to his will for my life and not my own. I had to learn how to become discipline anf implement self-control and consistency in my relationship toward him.

Now the next part is where the rubber meets the road. And from my own life and from what I've witnessed in the lives of others; this part seems to be the hardest of them all and that is the relationship with yourself. Many of us get to the point where we have the relationship with God down to a science but when it comes to us developing and growing a relationship with ourselves, that is where we sometimes fall by the wayside. Many feel like because they have a strong relationship with God then they automatically have a strong relationship with themdelf but that is so far from the truth. When developing and working on a relationship with yourself, you have HUGE part to play in the process.

You have to be honest with who you are and be able to go to God in complete vulnerability and honesty and asking him to show you you. In your quest to really finding out who you are and in uncovering all of the deepest things about yourself, you have to be ready and willing to put in the work to begin growing, developing and transforming.  The best and most effective thing you can do for the love of your life one day is to constantly become a better version of Who You Are.  Your relationships will only be as good as you so it behooves you to always work diligently in this area.

You have to be open and true and asking God to show your attitudes, your moods; your self-righteous and quirky behavioral patterns. Your past hurt and pain that is still affecting you, the emotional barriers and baggage that you still have, deeply rooted mentally, emotionally and psychological issues that still have you in bondage, the borders and boundaries that you have  put in place to block out other people because of your own internal insecurities and the list goes on. The benefit of you doing this is that you will not carry these things over into your long-term relationship and marriage. This will be more beneficial for you, your partner and your current or future children.

After you've done your spiritual work and your personal growth work then and only then are you ready and able to be in a relationship where you can love someone unconditionally.  Then and only then can you build the foundation of a solid relationship and being able to not only exist together but grow together cohesively, now having a firm and secure foundation.

Hopefully you will be able to take what I said throughout this blog and what I'm about to give you and apply it to your life regardless of your current relationship status. Even those of you that are already married or in a long-term relationship, it's never too late to go back to the root. It's never too late to rebuild the foundation of your spiritual and personal life.

I want to leave with you The Ten Commandments to having Great Relationships:

I. Honor God with your first fruits and with the substance of all thine increase. God gets and keeps the first part of you.

II. Your body is God's temple, treat it as such. Honor God with your body by the decisions you make every single day.

III. Continue contributing and growing your current relationships by applying these things written throughout this blog.

IV. Cleanliness is next to godliness; practice such in your singleness, so you can transfer it into your marriage. And when I talk of cleanliness, I'm not talking only about externally but internal cleanliness; your thoughts behaviors and attitudes.

V. Get rid of selfishness. Willingly share what you have with those who are part of your life.

VI. We serve a God of compassion and as a Kingdom citizen; we should implement that same attribute toward others.

VII. Know, understand and practice the fruit of the spirit Galatians 5 22-23. Implement these into your life and relationships every single day.

VIII. Get rid of fault-finding and practice grace and forgiveness. Forgive because God first forgave you.

IX. Choose to love those in your life the way God loves you and read and meditate on 1 Corinthians 13:1-10.

X. Stay true to yourself. Be honest with who you are and be okay & accept that there is always room to grow.

Bonus: Healed  people help heal others, get healed!

If you implement these things into your life and current relationships, you will begin to see tremendous transformation take place. Remember, the greatest thing you can do for your relationships is to first have a solid relationship with God and then have a solid relationship with yourself. You will be fooling yourself to think that if you don't work on these two areas first, you will have great relationships with others. In fact the opposite is true. 

Love you sis,
Treal Ravenel


P.S. For those of you who are single and you are committed to the growth work process, I want to offer you free gift. This free gift speaks directly to establishing healthy relationship goals and I know that it will support you even the more on your journey of having great relationships.  Grab your free gift HERE.

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Friday, November 4, 2016

7 Signs He/She Is Mr(s). Right versus Mr(s). Right Now!


 
So someone from our community asked the question, how do you know if a guy is a Mr. Right versus a Mr. Right Now?  So I created this vlog to response to this question.  This may seem obvious to some but for me I settled for a Mr. Right Now on many occasions because I never took the time to define exactly what a Mr. Right look like for me.  When I did, that made it crystal clear.  Within 30 days of doing that, I was able to identify the man God had appointed to my life.  I had met him five (5) weeks prior but once I had the written criteria coupled with verbal and visual indications from him, I could see he was my Mr. Right! There were several attributes that helped me identify him. Here I will share the top seven (7) signs.


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No. 1 He/She loves God and submits to God's Word.  That is so important.  It is not an accident this is number one.  Understand we are talking about courtship that leads to marriage and it is a covenant relationship.  In a covenant relationship, you will have to submit to the other person. Often times we focus on the wife having to submit to the husband which is true, but men have to submit to Christ and they have to love their wives as Christ loved the church.

No. 2 His/Her purpose for dating should be to find a wife (or husband for the guys). So listen, if you are not out their asking specifically what is your goal in a dating relationship, you are missing your life!  It is running!!! Go get it! LOL

No, seriously, be sure to write this question down, "What is your goal in a dating relationship at this time"? Put this question in your iPhone, android or where ever.  You should ask this question on date # 1 no later than date # 2.  And be sure you know the answer to this question for yourself.

If you are in high school or college age or younger reading this blog, than you should be having group dates and not getting too serious in a relationship.  Spend this time understanding what you like and what you don't like, trust me on this!

No. 3 He respects your decisions and does not attempt to do or say things that will pull you away from God.  Likewise with her.    I wrote a book called Sexless Single | How to Stay Sexless in a Sex Filled World!  And I wrote this book because so many Believers want to be celibate but they struggle with how to actually live that out each and every day especially when dating and when faced with temptation.

One of the things I find to be true is that you cannot be with a partner who does not respect your decision to be celibate.   If you are with someone who does not respect your decision, he/she will try to pull you in to an intimate or sexual experience.  That is disrespectful!   If you are in a relationship like that or if you are in a relationship with someone who does not have the same goals that you have, get out!  You are not aligned! Or as the  Bible says it, you are unequally yoked!

No. 4 He/she is financially independent.  This means (s)he is not living with his mama. OKAY!  He does not have more money on his back then he has in the bank.  You need to ask questions!

Do you have a 401K? Do you have TSP?  Do you have a Roth IRA?  What percentage are you contributing into that each month?  Are you putting in the minimum match?  How much are you saving per month?  How much is your car note?  Are you renting or buying? How much credit card debt do you have? 

I recall Clefo Dollar had a sermon and he gave some relationship advice and he listed dozens of questions to ask and at the end he said, "You need to know"  and that is exactly what I am telling you right now.  You need to know the answer to these questions to see if you and the person you are dating have similar goals and aspirations.

The reason behind the above questions are because you want to make sure (s)he is financially independent. You do not want to date someone who is living with their mama.  Let me qualify that.  Let's say, he is living with his mother, hold on, I can't qualify that, let's say he has a roommate.

When I met my husband, he had a roommate, he was renting a room.  On the other hand, he had a car, he had a good paying job/ really a career and he choose to have a roommate to save money and because he is frugal if I can just be that honest ;-)  You need to find out why he does not have his own place.  Is it because he can't afford to have his own place or is it because he is paying out of debt and/or saving to buy a house? And a lady likewise.  Again you need to know!

No. 5 He shows compassionate towards your children. She shows compassionate towards your children. Dude, if you have a daughter and she comes over every weekend, your partner has to respect that.  If she does not like it, you already have a conflict, move on!

I am just saying, God wants to give you a million dollar mate, stop wasting your time with these hundred dollar mates and five dollar mates.

No.6 She makes sacrifices on your behalf. Certain things he does not do because you don't approve of it.  Or it may make you upset or it may make you uncomfortable.  That is not coming from a place of control and should not conflict with priorities with your family and your job.  Like you going out with your friends to the club for example. Or on the flip side, it could be that your partner does something for you, to make you happy.

I remember one time, I got upset  with my husband when we were dating because he did not have any pictures of me or us on his Facebook page.  Don't judge me, you know Facebook is serious now-a-days...

So to make me happy he posted a picture of us,  You may say that is petty but it was important to me. To me that was him publicly confessing and professing his love for me and he knew it meant a lot to me so he made that sacrifice for me.

No. 7 He has/ she includes you in their inner circle.  You met the mom, you met the best friend,  you know his people.  If you have been dating him for six months and you don't know his people, HOUSTON, we have a problem.  As you go forth, be sure to applied these dating principles to your life and really just your day to day decisions, pray and ask God to give you wisdom and discerning spirit so you can hear His voice and live your best life now and attract God's best for your life!

If you enjoyed these dating tips and want more Christian relationship advice and dating advice, then be sure to join our email list and join the 7 Day Sexless Single Challenge by click here.

P.S. For the first 100 people, you can pre-order a copy of my book, Sexless Single | How to Stay Sexless in a Sex Filled World by clicking hereYou only have to pay for shipping.
Once the book is released mid November it will be $14.99 plus shipping.

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My name is Jill Bulluck and I am committed to preparing and positioning Kingdom Women, Leaders, Professionals, and Entrepreneur Women to attract healthy happy love that leads to a lasting Christ-centered marriage. I do this by showing you how to change the trajectory of your life through renewing your mind around your mission to your mate so you can make choices that make you more attractive, bold and authentic in the space you occupy.











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Tuesday, November 1, 2016

The 5 C's to Successful Living!


Is this mic on?  Listen up!  Many people want to be successful at life but too many don’t want to put in the work required. That holds truth for spiritual growth, marital growth, financial wealth and business success. Talking about what you want vice doing what is necessary to get what you want or even need in some cases gets old really quickly and in order to be better, you have to do better and do more. I have seen it time and time again. Somehow many believers feel that because they made a decision to follow Christ, that magically they will be successful in their life, relationships and business. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but it doesn’t quite work that way. You have to werk werk werk werk werk!

You can’t allow the facts outweigh the truth. Ok, what are you talking about Treal? The facts maybe your #1 marriage is going through, #2your business is having a rough quarter or #3 your spiritually incapacitated etc but the TRUTH is that #1 your marriage is heal and whole through Jesus Christ and you need to own that truth and walk in it daily; #2 you are a successful business owner and all you need to continue to do is apply the principles (the word of God) and allow the holy spirit to lead you and #3 you are spiritually empowered and if you remain in God and he in you; you will bear much fruit. So that means you have to go deeper in God by spending regular and intentional time with him and in his word and oh yeah, you have to apply the word to your life among other things so that you experience success.

So you should know by now that when I speak of success, I am referring to spiritual and personal success in every sense; tangible and intangible blessings overflowing in your life, relationships and business or ministry. I told you in my last blog “3 Ways to Win At Life”that God wants us to be successful. The questions now is, so why aren’t we? Is it because you haven’t put in the work? It is because you give up to easy when you don’t see immediate results? Is it because you failed once and you think that failure is a consistent trait in your life? Maybe or Maybe not but what I want to share with you is that if you want it, you have to reach for it and here is how:

5 C's to Successful Living:

1. Community Support (online / offline or both)! You are going to need the support of others to get where you are desiring to go.  No great or successful person reached success riding solo.  If you are in need of a community to join, try ours by clicking HERE.

2. Commit to Your Own Personal Growth Work! You can’t wait for anyone to hand you a bowl of success, you have to go out there and get what belongs to you.

3. Consistent Prayer Life is a MUST! When you pray, get ready to obey. Praying not only draws you close to God but it provide you with a deeper revelation of who God is, who you are and who you are becoming. It is a gateway to your future!

4. Connect with a Purpose Partner! This is someone that can pray with and for you; who will walk hand and hand with you in life. For some of you this may be your husband, sister, best friend, coach, mentor etc. If you don’t have this person, find this person and stay connected with them. Need help finding this person, the offer still stands to join our community.  Click HERE.

5. Carefully and Intentionally Make Strategic Moves! Everything you put your hands to, do it with all diligence and excellence.

Listen, I can go on and on and give you dozens of tips but none of them will do you any good if you are not ready to put in the work to create your own success. So what will it be?

Treal Ravenel



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Sunday, October 16, 2016

3 Ways to Win At Life


Many of us want to win souls for Jesus but we are losing horribly in our personal lives. So many marriages and relationships in the body of Christ are falling apart daily; many are broke and broken, Christian businesses are failing; children are going astray and the list goes on.

 Our foundation has been shaken and the word says if the foundation be destroyed, what can the righteous do? We have to get back to foundation and fundamental principles if we want to win in life.

There is so much confusion between accepting or acknowledging that Jesus died on the cross and rose the third day (confession) and living holy (filled with the Holy Ghost). Many people feel that when they have accepted Jesus as their personal savior, then that is it, they go about their lives doing what they do best in hopes of things just getting better on their own. But what many people do not realize that in order for you to be able to really live for Christ, live a life that is pleasing in his sight and to live an uncompromising life aka win at life, there are three areas you have to constantly work on so that you cannot only win souls for Jesus but you can win in your own personal life.

I was once at a place where I was so anxious and committed to winning souls for Jesus but I was losing at life. I was not winning in my relationships, my finances, my behavior, my attitude and other areas. I was living a defeated life but going to church religiously and doing church activities.

Disclaimer: Just because you are doing godly things doesn’t mean you are doing God. Now don't get me wrong here, I'm not saying that you have to live a flawless or live a perfect life but what I am saying is that our lives in its entirety should be evident that we are followers of Christ. Who would want to follow someone their whole life only to remain defeated? Defeat produces corrupt fruit. The fruit of what we do every single day should reflect Jesus. The fruit of our lives, relationships, money, businesses, marriages etc should scream loud and clear that we are Winning!

The easiest and most effective way to win someone to Christ is to win in your own life. People are drawn to those that are blessed not those that are broken! As I was thinking about this and trying to see how you can go from not only winning souls for Jesus but to winning in your personal life as well; I thought of three ways on how to do this.

The first thing you have to do or be in order to win in your personal life is practice Discipline. Yes I know we've heard that word so many times before and many of us have run away from that word but to be disciplined is to have order and structure in your life. To be able to have standards and set boundaries and limitations of what you do, where you go, what you say and how you live your life daily. Discipline helps you to be consistently constant in every area of your life mitigating confusion and chaos. By definition to be discipline is the practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behavior. And for our purposes when it talks about training, for us (believers) it is training your flesh, training your mind; renewing your mind, submitting to God, resisting the devil and surrendering your flesh to the spirit of God. Going to church on a weekly basis is not discipline. It is simply a ritual or an obligation in which we all should partake in but that alone does not constitute discipline. So many have gotten discipline and living for Christ confused with going to weekly church services.

The second way you will be able to win in your personal life is Discipleship. Discipleship is basically you making a decision to pick up your cross, meaning to let go of the way you do life and to follow Jesus. To be a disciple also means that you are committed to winning souls for Christ by the way that you live. The full definition of being a disciple is one who accepts and assists in spreading the doctrine of another and it refers to the 12 disciples that we read about in the word of God, those that Jesus trained to be able to go out in the world to spread the gospel. The best way you can win others is not necessarily by what you say but by what you do. It is your life living that is going to draw other people not only to you but also to Christ.

We just started our Kingdom Women discipleship classes a couple of weeks ago via Facebook live and it has been absolutely amazing. It's something that God placed on me and Jill's heart because we realized that so many are being taught on how to do church but they're not being taught you how to do life.

If you're interested in learning more about that discipleship training please email us at jillandtreal@detourmovement.com and put Discipleship training in the subject line and we will be able to give you more information. In the meantime, join our Kingdom Women Lounge Facebook group by clicking HERE to get regular updates and notifications.

The third way you will be able to not only win souls for Christ but start to win in your own life is Development. These 3 areas working together will help you win in your own relationships, your own marriage, your own finances, with your own children and your family and most of all begin to experience all the promises that God has laid out for your life. The word of God tells us in 2 Corinthians 1:20 that all the promises in God are yes and amen and in 2 Peter 1:3 reminds us that God has given us all things that pertain to life and godliness, so it’s imperative that these three areas are working and operative daily in your life.

When you are focused on your personal and professional development, you are working to prepare and position your mind, body and spirit for the next dimension God has for you. Development is a daily process and it takes a tremendous amount of work on your behalf. The work will require you to be intentional about your growth and development. Nothing happens by chance so you desiring a closer walk with God, desiring a better relationship with your husband and / or children or significant other, you desiring for your financial situation to get better or even your business to be successful; there are things that you have to do intentionally every single day to evolve mentally, emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually and relationally.

There are self initiated steps that you will have to take to contribute to your own growth and development but you have to be proactive and ready to take the first step. You cannot make others responsible for where you are or where you're going in life. The same with Jesus, when he was teaching the disciples to win at life, they had to be willing participants and committed to their own growth and development as much as he was. If you need a push in the right direction or just need for the support on your journey, I encourage you to join our Kingdom Women Lounge group via Facebook. This group was specifically designed to help women grow a closer and deeper relationship with God, and to understand their value and purpose in the Kingdom.

If you need even more support and desire to explore Kingdom Women membership, click HERE or more details and to sign up. Now that I've said a mouthful, I hope that while reading this you didn’t look at it as another blog but you read it with the intentions of taking action, taking the next step to winning in every area of your life. God wants our personal lives to be just as abundant and prosperous as our spiritual life. 1 John 3:2 assures us so when he clearly that God wishes above ALL things that you may prosper and be in health EVEN AS your soul prospers. Let’s not just be or become a group of spiritual profound individuals without being effective or prosperous at life but let your light so shine so that men may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven. Your light shining is not only in a spiritual sense but your entire life being a showcase or being a beam of light for people to see that Jesus is just as concerned about your natural success (life) as he is your spiritual success (godliness). Let's draw others to Christ by winning at Life!!!

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Love you sis, Treal Ravenel

P.S. If you are interested in our Kingdom Women membership, you can become a member by clicking here.  The basic level is FREE which includes access to the KW discipleship class.

1.) Sign-up: When you click here, scroll down to the bottom of the page and complete the application.

2.) Then head over to our DMI Kingdom Women Lounge group so you can connect with genuine women who will love you like a sister or should I say a "sista".

3.) If you want to Join Kingdom Women School, purchase your books from detouromovement.org and hit"recommended" books.  It is the MasterLife book set.  It comes with four books for $25 to $40 or you can purchase one book at a time.  We are starting with "The Disciple's Cross"
  
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P.S.S. We are assigning prayer partners this week so if you need a prayer partner, when you complete the short registration form on detourmovement.org enter "prayer partner" in the comments. 

P.S.S.S Join us every Monday for our Kingdom Women discipleship class at 8PM EST. Be sure to follow us (Jill Bulluck and Treal Ravenel on FB so you can catch each broadcast. We will alternate in teaching.)

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Monday, October 3, 2016

It Is Time to Get Real with God! | Closer Walk With God TODAY! | Christian Blog

Did you know I was one of those preacher kids who got saved at nine years old? Yep, on my own, I raised my hand to be baptized and accepted Jesus Christ in my life.  Although I met the minimal standards of being saved, as I got into middle school, I struggled with living up to God's standards.  

Well that probably is an understatement.  Actually, I lived a pretty raggedy life. I was in and out of relationships with all kind of guys from dope dealers to jail birds who did not mean me any good. 
After cycling in and out of dead-end relationships,  when I graduated college I started to get sick and tired of being sick and tired.  So I rededicated my life to Christ.  Up to that point, I had spent little time studying the Word of God and even less time praying. It wasn't until 2008 when I had to teach girls Bible Study did I start reading the Word of God on a regular basis.  

The closer I got to God, the easier it was to obey Him.  The more I prayed and obeyed, the more I started seeing God's promises manifest in my life from my career (2008), to my finances (2010), to my family(2012) and now in our business. 

I just wanted to slide into your inbox real quick and say it is time out for pretending and half stepping! We are about to dive deep into our Father's business so we can claim everything He has promised us: peace, joy, love, prosperity, sound mind and the list goes on!  

You may be struggling with your current state of singleness wondering why you are still single or your marriage may not be what you thought it would be. Even if you marriage is peaches and cream,  my question to you is, how can you expect to submit to a man and you can't even submit to God? I call that displaced loyalty.  Let's get your house in order!

Starting tonight, we are hosting Kingdom Women School! These classes will be held Mondays at 8PM EST.  These classes are for any women who wants to truly grow in their walk with God with a structured plan that can guide you step-by-step and day-by-day in growing in God for real for real.
No preparation needed tonight. We will tell you everything you need to know on the live broadcast! 


You can join the DMI Kingdom Women Lounge Facebook group by clicking here! This is a place to connect with genuine women who are about having a Christ-centered life and relationships.

P.S. Be sure to follow us (Jill Bulluck and Treal Ravenel on FB so you can catch each broadcast.  We will alternate in teaching.)

P.S.S. If you are in or around the Delaware or DC area, join Treal and I at the 2nd Annual Live on Purpose Conference  Click here to learn more!



Become a member today by clicking here.  The basic level is FREE which includes access to the KW disciplineship class.  When you click here, scroll down to the bottom of the page and complete the application.  Then head over to our DMI Kingdom Women Lounge group so you can connect with genuine women who will love you like a sister or should I say a "sista".

Author Jill Bulluck, Detour Movement Inc.


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Thursday, September 22, 2016

Should Christians Date Online | Christian Dating Advice | Relationship Advice


Should Christians Date Online | Christian Dating Advice | Relationship Advice   

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABosNljiXrcShould Christians date online?  Is that being too aggressive?  Is that really waiting on God?  May be some of the questions you are going back and forth in your mind. Well let me give you my take on it.  It is not about your geographically location.  Grant it some places are more desirable than others to meet someone. Ofcourse you don't necessarily want to be backing that thing up, up in the club twerking it.  Talking about, " oh he is going to be my husband".  How he look?  How I look? HOT.  SO STOP!

I am not saying where you meet someone is irrelevant but what I am saying is rather you meet someone at the gas station, the grocery or online that is not what it is really about.  It is about your motivates and where you are in terms of your mental and emotional space because that is who you are going to attract where ever you go.  (Click to watch the video or just keep reading.)

 

If you are a really busy person, working ten hour days, you are in law school, single working mom with kids and back in school and you are doing a lot of things and you are not getting out much not because you don't have the desire to, but because you have your plate full then dating online may be for you.

First ask yourself if you truly have time to invest in a relationship because you will have to sacrifice some of your personal time for that relationship.   If you say you do have time, as you spend your down time unwinding and you would really like to share that time with someone else then you may be a good candidate for dating online. Or if you live in a community where the quality of men are on a different level mentally, spiritually and even financially then where you know God is taking you then online dating may be for you.

Let me be very transparent for a moment, I dated online.  I am an introvert. I am part of the introvert nation and I like to spend a lot of time in my head, relaxing and thinking. I get out when I have to or when I need to.  In high school up through my mid-twenties, I found that I was often a victim of my environment.  What I mean by that is because of the community I found myself in, many of them not the most desire, I attracted men from my local area.  Growing up, the next block all the high school boys sold drugs and then soon found themselves in and out of jail.  Then when I lived in San Diego and as a broke college student and recent graduate, I worked at a bar in the hood.  With that being said, I attracted and dated guys who I came across in my every day life like many people do today. 

Online dating breaks the barriers and limitations of your community, your cities and your state.  You have to get to a place where you will no longer to be a victim of your situation or your circumstance.  Don't sit back and wait to be chosen by guys that God never intended for you to be with in the beginning. 

My husband and I first connected with one another online. Then from that connection online, we met in person at a speed dating event.  I did not speed date but he did. Listen, after he connected with me, he was not interested in speed dating but he got recruited by the event host, so he obligated. Here we we are over five years later and four years of healthy happy marriage coming up!

So I will tell you, yes it is okay for Christians to date online. It is not about your physical zone code as it is about your mental and spiritual zone code so the where is just secondary.  Ask yourself, why do you want to date online. If you are dating online because you are desperate and you don't want to wait any more, thinking or saying to yourself, "It is my time now, I don't want to wait any more.  I am 40 years old, either he comes now or not at all".  I will tell you to take a step back and see if you are truly hold as a single woman.  The truth be told even when you get marry, having a partner is not going to fulfill that level of loneliness.  You still are going to have to have your own life.  So my advise is find your life before you become his wife!


About Me:  I am a Daughter of the King who loves to share Christian Dating Advice and Relationship Advice to my Kingdom Family.  God put this vision on my heart over five years ago to help women renew their mind, so they can transform their life. I also happen to be a best-selling author of the book "The Biggest Lies Women Believe about Men, Dating and Themselves | Discovering the truth to a Fabulous Life & Relationship", I have had the opportunity to speaks on dozens of platform as a transformation speaker and a coach. I help you catch your life from getting your mind right to your ministry & to your man. I help you make the right choices within your relationships with the men in your life starting with your Heavenly Father by Dispelling the lies of the world, Discovering the truth through the WORD, Defining your authentic self so you can be unstoppable and Develop into the next best version of you during your season of singleness so you can attract and keep healthy happy love that leads to a god-centered marriage and become a dynamic happy whole wife, woman and most importantly a child of the King.  I prepare and position women through conferences, workshops, retreats, one on one consulting, through books and programs. Are you ready to end the foolishness and boot the bozo and attract a god-fearing man, book a FREE consultation with me to see how I can help.  Click here so we can chat!

Be sure to grab a copy of my best-selling book, the Biggest Lies  Women Believe about Men, Dating and Themselves.  It is FREE, you only have to pay for shipping for a limited amount of time. Click Here and enter "Truthspeaks"  

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