
1 1. Your attitude: Are you happy and bubbly or bitter? Bitter looks like complaining, comparing, and
competing… Choose to have a positive
attitude even in the midst of a challenge or adversity!
2. Your values: What
do you stand for? What do you believe in? Does anything go in any setting? Are you a certain way in front of one group
of people and then another way in front of another group of people? Keep your values in being who you say you are
in private and in public.
3. Your confidence: Do you like yourself? Confidence refers to your physical appearance
and more importantly your self-esteem.
Are you able to be yourself or do you hold back in fear that if he finds
out who you really are, he won’t like you?
Most people prefer authenticity! If you are not comfortable with who you
are then start working on how you would like to show up in the world. Write out
your ideal self. What type of things
would you be doing, what type of things would you be saying or not saying and
start being and doing what your ideal self would do.
4. Your ability to
control your emotions – Stop becoming emotionally hi-jacked (extremely
emotional) over every little thing.
Practice being in control of your emotions regardless of your
environment. Don’t let any and
everything get you in a place of discontentment or feeling discombobulated.
5. Your ability to
respect and honor him – this goes in a private and public setting. Don’t challenge or rebut against him because
you are right or you think you are right.
Don’t question or challenge his ability to be a man and make
decisions. This is an extreme turn off
for a man and he will end a relationship on this alone.
6. Your communication
-what does your conversation sound like?
Do you ask questions to get to know who he really is or are you interested
in how much money he makes and what he can do for you?
Side Note: Guys cannot stand
when a women talks about work all the time or about things that are not going
right in her life (negative/pessimistic talk).
Guys are not controversial; they hate drama and negativity especially
from the women they are dating or married to.
Also; guys despise women with a gossiping tongue- so don’t do it!
7. Jealous and
insecurity are two of the greatest attraction killers. If this is something you struggle with; ask
God to help you overcome the spirit of jealousy and insecurity. Oftentimes due to past relationships or life
circumstances; women struggle in this area.
When you have an inability to trust your mate that greatly affects the
relationship as a whole.
Side Note: In order to be secure
and satisfied in a relationship; you first have to be secure and satisfied in
your singleness.
8. Your ability to spend
time apart from him without having an anxiety attack. It is ok to have “me” time or girl time away
from your mate. Everything you do does not
have to revolve around him.
9. Have a fulfilled life
outside of the relationship. A man
wants to know that you can stand on your own two feet without him having to
hold you up ALL the time. Get a life and
healthy hobbies outside of him.
10. Your Money Management. Are you a wasteful spender? Do you spend
money you don’t have in order to keep up with the latest and greatest? Believe it or not; even if a man does not do
well in this area, he does not want a women who is wasteful in her
spending. This shows that she lacks
discipline and self-control in the areas of spending and it normally holds true
to other areas of her life. Financial
management says not only will you have plenty stored up for a rainy day, but
you will not exhaust your income for the sake of status or because you spend on
impulse. Being able to effectively manage your finances is one of the characteristics
of a Proverbs 31 Women!
Stay Fabulous & Phenomenal,
Jill Bulluck
Jill Bulluck
