Tuesday, February 9, 2016

A Few Things Every Woman Needs to Understanding about Love

I am not here to impress you or to boast. I'm here to encourage and empower you to understand that you are fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God and to remind you of your true value so you can understand and receive love.

See, my God turned my test into a testimony because I decided to say, "YES" in being obedient to His Word. When you say YES, it requires action on your part first. I will share with you what action my YES required:

1.) Make a Decision to Enjoy Your Current Season
During my journey of singleness, I made a decision to enjoy my singleness, to truly embrace and love the season God me at that time.  I made a bold decision that I was too fabulous to settle for bozos (a man not living for God) or a man who did nothing to bring me true joy.

2.) Don't believe the Lies
Be carefully not to believe the lies.  You know sometimes a man will lie to you, saying he loves you when he truly just love lying down next to you aka lusting you.  I also believed lies I told myself, like that I loved myself despite the fact I allowed other people to mistreat me.  If you allow other people to mistreat you, it may be that you don't think you deserve to be treat with love and respect like the Queen you are.  It doesn't matter your past or what you have been through, you deserve to be treated like royalty because you are the daughter of the King and no one can take that away from you!

3.) Be Aware of the Disguise of love
So love, or really my misunderstanding of love, was the biggest lie that led me down the wrong path.  Don't make the mistake I made, looking for love in all the wrong places.  Just because you did not have a father to be consistent in showing you what love looked like and how you were supposed to be treated is not an excuse why you are staying in a relationship that is not serving you.  You know that relationship that pulls you farther from God, rather than drawing you closer to God.   You know that relationship where that guy is in the process of getting a divorce but it is still not final or that guy you are dating, who is controlling and always trying to tell you what to do.  These types of relationships are unhealthy and not God's desire for your life.

Eventually, God revealed to me the deceptions I believed about love and he is waiting to do the same thing for you.

L.O.V.E.Legs Open Very Easily
L.OV.E. Lusting Over Vital Emotions
L.O.V.E. Lusting Over Vulnerable Emotions

See as a woman, when you love the way the world loves, you think you have to give your body to a man, so your legs open very easily and you have a strong desire to be with that man, you may even imagine him holding you, kissing you and doing all types of things with you, for you and to you.  Just because he stays on your mind and you like him a lot, that does not equate to love.  That is often lust in disguise and that is why I say is it Love Over Vulnerable Emotions.

Don’t confuse physical intimacy and your needs for love and affection for true love.  True love doesn’t hurt.  

See once you give your body to a man, you become vulnerable because you have allowed him to enter into your soul and when anything enters into your soul, it has control over you.   You think you are doing you or what you want to do, but after sex, a man spirit is deposited in you and that spirit influences your thoughts and decisions until you break the soul tie.
If any spirit outside of the Holy Spirit is controlling you that is not love, that is soul ties and bondage, and sis it is so important that you understand the difference and break FREE.

4.) Understanding Godly Love
You may be in a place where you do not understand love. But I just stop by to tell you, if you want to know about LOVE, you have to seek the author of love, which is God, the Father. He showed me, explained to me, broke it down, simplified it to the point I had to understand and apply it to my life and how it was impacting where I was going and He will do the same for you.   

I had a choose to either continue believing the lies about love and doing love the worlds way or DETOUR  from the things that was not pleasing to Him.

As I started seeking God to really understand love, He gave me 1 Corinthians 13:4-13.

vs 4: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 
A man will be patient in with who you are, what you was and where you are going; 5: It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
A man will not disrespect you emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically, naturally. He will not argue with you. He will walk away before he latches out; 6: Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. A man will tell you the truth even if it hurts; 7: It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. A man will pursue you, protect you, love you, care for you in any situation; 8: Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.  A man will not use anything bad thing against you. He will speak over your life, he will pray for you. He will breathe knowledge in you. He will encourage you; 9: For we know in part and we prophesy in part; 10: but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears; 11: When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me; 12: Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known and, vs 13: And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

This scripture is connected to my spirit and it allowed me to understand what God says about love.
After receiving this Word, I look at love in a different manner; Love to me NOW means:

1 Peter 4:8 "Above all things being fervent in your love among yourselves; for love covereth a multitude of sins: I allowed God to be the matchmaker of my life because my feelings fooled me so many times and had me repeating the same cycle and my understanding was limited, but His is not. He knew what was best for me and he'll bring that man or woman along when the time is right.
When you stop trying to find the right man and start becoming the right woman, the best version of you, the right man will eventually find his way to you (his wife)."

5.) Listen to People Actions Not Just their Words
Remember this: A boy speaks, but a Godly, gentleman acts. This speaks for itself!  I encourage you to listen to a man's behavior and not just his words. You know the old saying, talk is cheap but actions are actually exactly what you get.

Now, I'm going to leave this right here:
After I starting seeking God, little by little everything started being added to me.  The more obedient I am to God, the more and more He blesses me, exceedingly abundantly above and beyond all that I can ask or think, according to the power that works in me (phrase of Ephesians 3:20 personalized). Once you start living a lifestyle of obedience God is going to bless you beyond what you could ever think or imagine.

6.) Focus on Your Father's Business
As I focused on my Father's business, God sent me a man that loves and honors me. And this man of God shows his love to me through not just WORDS but through His DEEDS which reveals his HEART.  It wasn't until I really understood love that God sent this man in my life because prior to that, I would not know how to appreciate all that he does for me.  This man of God shows his love to me and demonstrates the fruit of the spirit of faithfulness by delivering me beautiful bouquet of flowers every month on the 16th.  The 16th for me is always beyond and infinity.

7.) You Are His Daughter Too; He Is Waiting on You, to Bless You
Sis, understand that God is not a respecter of person, just as I am His favorite daughter, you are too.  God is waiting to bless you with love, joy and peace that is fit for a queen; however, before he do that, you have to meet the perquisite of submitting to Him and being obedient to what He has already told you to do.  Once you do that, you will start shedding the pain from your past, dispelling the deception that led to death and destruction and DETOUR in a direction that will led to your divine destiny.

Thank you God for teaching me about love and thank you God for my Mister.
Latoya Rivers
Co-writer/Edited by Jill Bulluck
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