Saturday, August 19, 2017

Part 1: I Just Got Back from Vacation in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico and It Made Me Think - What Makes People Happy?

After over ten years I finally had the opportunity to visit Puerto Vallarta, Mexico! We stayed at the Sunset Plaza Resort. 

The rooms were spotless, no buffet, everything is made to order fresh, room service at no additional cost. Upon arrival we received a cold hand clothe and a glass of wine which is pretty typical for all inclusive resorts.  I don't drink alcohol so I passed on the wine but later I had a virgin Miami Vice and it was everything!
From the butler to the housekeeper, everyone was super courteous and accommodating.  And the  view was just to die for!  The big downer is the soliciting of timeshare presentation from the time we arrived at the airport until day 2 of our trip.  My hubby don't play that. No we don't want to waste three hours of our vacation or life with pushy sales people to save $50 bucks.  Thanks but no thanks!

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Over six days, we only had one planned excursion for an ATV tour in the city that I later learned was a private tour!

Private tour uh?  Well, actually I couldn't help but think who in their right mind would take an exclusive private tour in a foreign country with a stranger through the city on back roads up through a juggle?

Well me and Kelvin clearly.

The things my husband get me into.

After I admitted my thoughts around our private tour to the hubby, we took a little detour, and we got to see a view of the city.  Now that was pretty cool!

We also sneak in a little Jet ski time.  I was a little afraid however, I pushed through since I had cut the hubby ATV exclusive tour a little short.

Each day before we got out and enjoy the sun, I had to get some rest.

The crazy thing is nearly everyday I slept until 9 AM local time aka 10 AM EST!

This is totally unheard of for me because generally, I get up 4:30 AM or 5:30 AM each morning.

That is just evidence of how much I needed some rest and relaxation. 

While on vacay, I had a chance to start reading one of my favorite authors', Valorie Burton's book, Successful Women Thinks Differently, and in her chapter on "Get Off the Hedonic Treadmill," she disclosed that women today are on average less happy than we were 40 years ago.

As my girl Beyoncé likes to say, HOLD-UP!

Women have more income, more career opportunity, more career advancement,  bigger houses, more shoes, more clothes, more gender equality, more racial equality,  hell, even more, sexuality equality and some even have more sex, and yet we are less happier!

How can that be true? First thing is we are horrible at estimating what actually makes us happy. We think getting the new house, car, job, degree or promotion will do it but truth-be-told that wears off pretty quick.

Secondly, happiness is indeed related to the happenings in our life and specifically the expectations we put on ourselves and the expectations others put on us that we accept.

Eric Webber explains it as "Happiness equals reality minus expectations."

Let me break it down for you again

Happiness = Reality-Expectations

So essentially you have two choices: increase your reality or lower your expectations.

Most women try to kill themselves trying to do the former.  I know I was indeed one of them.  But once I started to feel it at age 33, I jumped off that hamster wheel, and EVERY DAY I have to fight the urge to continue...

Truth moment: It was never God's desire for women to work this hard.  If you find yourself working or doing something nearly every moment of the day, if your health is declining i.e. experiencing premature menopause (may be evident by missed period not pregnant, high flashes, suddenly unusually period) before the age of 40 according to doctors and I would say even before 45 years old, diabetes, prediabete, fibromyalgia, high blood pressure or other health challenges then I would say examine to see if you are doing one of two things:

Here is the Bottom Line is... 

1.) Avoid working yourself to death.  This means night and day, you are hustle and you don't have to be on anyone street corner to be a hustler. You just have to work  more than 10 hours a day or more than 50 hours a week or running from place to place getting less than 7.5 hours of sleep a day.

2.) Avoid eating yourself out of health.  I am not just talking about in terms of quantity but also in terms of the quality of food you are putting in your body.

Here are my 3 Step to Stop Overworking aka ABCs aka:

A=Ask God to bless you. Jabez is noted in the Bible as being the most notable of all of his siblings, and I believe it is because He trusted in God and not in himself.  I Chronicle 4:10 And Jabez called on the God of Israel saying, “Oh, that You would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evil, that I may not cause pain!” So God granted him what he requested.

B=Believe that He will do it.   You cannot conquer the world on your own so stop trying! Surrender to God.  Luke 9:23 "The [Jesus] said to them all, "If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me.
Bottom line this means, not pursuing your agenda and plan and get aligned with God's plan. Of course, easier said than down, but it starts with you asking God to bless you to do His will and then believe He will do it.

C=Contentment in your current season. Be content where you are with the belief that this is your current situation but not a final verdict for your life.

No doubt I would recommend a couple or family to go to Sunset Plaza to experience an amazing vacation.  On a scale of 1 to 5, I would give it a 4.6 but if you go there unhappy and discontent; shortly after you return, you will be the same way.

From all the pics and excitement in my email, you may think that being on vacation made me happy and up to a degree, 10% that is, it is true.  10% that is all you get.

Here is what is going to blow you mind!

A whole 40% of your happiness comes from how you internalize the situation and choose to respond to it and 50% well, it is genetics believe it or not. At the end of the day, everything is what you make it, and you have the choice to choose how you respond to every situation or circumstance in your life.

Join me next month, as I share my testimony as God is healing my body once I stopped eating myself out of health and started seeking healing through praying and fasting.

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About the Author: My name is Jill Bulluck and I am the Millennial Dating Mentor | I Prepare and Position Single Professionals to Create a Life they Love & Attract and Keep Healthy Happy Love that Leads to a Lasting Marriage through Virtual Workshops, One-on-one & Group Coaching, Retreats and Conferences.


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